Considering that the mind’s true purpose is Creation, and that Creation is nothing other than the expression of the Love within it, the human being—or the divided mind—must function in a similar way to experience happiness.
A person must be primarily oriented towards Giving or contributing, which means looking within and offering what they find to the world outside. The counterpart to that willingness is consumption: taking from outside to try to fill the inner void or make it more bearable.
When someone tries to resolve existential emptiness through external things, they lead their mind into a deeper state of cynicism. And that state is a bottomless pit: the more they try to fill it with things or experiences, the more they end up loathing everything they place within it.
That loathing forces the mind to seek ever stronger stimulation. This is why the passions of the body—the consumer—end up turning towards the sordid and the macabre. It is a destructive process that feeds on the external world in an attempt to feel alive. At the end of that road lie utter loathing of one’s own existence and the desire for death to bring it to an end.
For this reason, finding your place in the world and contributing what fulfils you or brings you happiness is not optional if you intend to live a full and happy life. A person who feels useful and valuable in whatever they do, regardless of what it is, is more likely to maintain healthy, fulfilling relationships: relationships in which wholeness meets wholeness.
A person who feels worthy does not demean themselves or beg for the pleasure of companionship. They seek someone equally whole to build unconditional relationships, in which they do not expect the other person to meet their expectations, but accept them as they are and appreciate everything they offer naturally.
Relationships free from the destructive yoke of that existential void and its dark, insatiable passions.